When you’re a Type A personality, you attack most things in life with a plan. So naturally, going into this pregnancy I had mentally made notes of things I wanted to do: go as far along in the labor process before asking for an epidural, attempt to breastfeed, do everything to avoid an emergency c-section, etc. Then I found out we were having twins, and I’m slowly learning how to relinquish my Type A tendencies because being a mom of twins does not allow for that type of personality. It’s been awhile since I’ve done a pregnancy update, and to be honest, I haven’t had much to say because (knock on wood) it’s been pretty smooth sailing so far. For the most part I’ve had lots of energy, been working long days at work in preparation for maternity leave later this summer, going to Orange Theory classes, and getting lots of walks in with our dog. It wasn’t until last Sunday I had my first pregnancy meltdown…
The first major body change was around 15-16 weeks when my blood flow started to increase, and the babes were starting to get larger. Some pregnancy sites mentioned that a stuffy nose might occur, and I had the exact opposite problem. My sinuses have been so dry, and from the increased blood flow I’ve unfortunately been getting bloody noses. My Doctor approved me taking Benadryl, and suggested saline spray to ease the pain from the dryness — these little additions to my routine have been a huge lifesaver.
So back to my meltdown last Sunday. In the last two week I’ve grown at a pretty rapid rate, and my lower back muscles just can’t keep up. Being active has been the best thing I could do for myself — if I do too much I feel it in my sciatica, and if I do too little I feel it in my sciatica. Learning the perfect balance of what works for me has helped keep the swelling down in my body and also minimize my back pain. However, I traveled for work the last two weeks (which meant little to no exercise took place), and with the growth in my belly, my muscles were struggling to support the weight shift. Last weekend I tried to catch up on sleep and errands, and just noticed I was being overall moody and snappy. I woke up Sunday morning to go to the gym and scheduled a prenatal massage (which was one of the best massages I’ve ever had) thinking it would help reset me. However, I had so much build up in my muscles it was one of those massages that left me in just as much pain as before from working out the many knots that had accumulated in my body. I sadly was left with a piercing headache where I couldn’t keep my eyes open, and later that day started having back spasms while putting the dishes away — from there I just lost it. I had tears rolling down my cheeks, and I finally came out of denial with how much my back pain was bothering me. I was fighting back tears as it was making my headache worse, and all I could do was take a hot shower and get in bed…hoping some rest would bring a better day on Monday.
This week I’ve definitely taken it easy, and I find the most simple things are now challenging based on my new size. I get out of breath when shaving my legs or putting on my shoes. I take our dog on walks on routes where I can stop to use the restroom every 2 miles or every 30-40 minutes. My veins are becoming more prominent, but I am not letting that bother me because I know it’s not permanent (and I don’t have signs of stretch marks yet so can’t complain). I canceled all social outings outside of work to spend time on the couch with my favorite massager (here) — pregnant or not I use this all the time, and for $40 you can’t beat the relief it offers. Lastly, I went bathing suit shopping and just couldn’t believe how different my body looked in a swimsuit — I’m so proud to say that for the first time I’m excited to be in a bathing suit because I oddly feel 1000x more comfortable pregnant in a two piece than ever before.
I think the most shocking thing that happened this week was that I met a mother of twins while running errands, and while I adoringly looked at her little ones I turned to let her know I was also expecting twins later this summer. With a smile grinning from ear to ear on my face I waited for her to respond, and when she finally did she said, “I’m sorry.” What!? Don’t you remember what it’s like to be pregnant with twins? The fear of bringing home two newborns, the extra hormones pumping through your body, the changes that appear faster than if you were having a singleton — I just couldn’t believe a fellow female could be so insensitive. I decided to chalk up her unfortunate comment to the fact she also might just be having a bad day, and immediately had to think of the strong support system I have that will hopefully avoid me ever saying those words to another mother-to-be!
Regardless, I’m letting the crazy continue as I’m going to be out of town for the next two weeks before my days of flying are paused. I’m going somewhere very special with my mom Monday evening, and then Justin and I are off for our Babymoon! I’m sure my pregnancy updates will become more frequent as I continue to get larger and experience more changes. In the meantime, I’m loving enjoying the last of my non-maternity wear. I picked up this gorgeous Misa Los Angeles boho dress from my favorite East Bay boutique, Duchess. The owner, Erica, is a mom of two, and has been the best to help me feel cute while pregnant. I am so thankful for the fellow mamas I’ve gotten to know better during this pregnancy — I’m realizing more and more how important it is to have a supportive community around me, and so excited to raise these babes amongst other amazing women.
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Special thanks to Seattle based photographer, Jenna Lynn Photography, for the lovely images.